The brain is your biggest sex organ. Start there.
Connect Us Boost Spray delivers oxytocin — the neuropeptide involved in bonding and connection. When delivered through the nasal passage it reaches the brain quickly to support the feelings of connection, relaxation, and emotional readiness that are part of sexual desire. For women whose relationship to desire has shifted under the weight of stress, disconnection, perimenopause, or the accumulated demands of a full life, this is a prescription tool that works with your brain's own chemistry rather than around it.
Size
30ml (30-day supply)
WHAT TO EXPECT
Connect Us works on the brain's neurological readiness for intimacy, not on physical arousal directly. The timeline below describes the experiential shifts patients report.
WITHIN 15–30 MINUTES
Intranasal oxytocin is absorbed through the nasal mucosa and reaches the brain relatively quickly. In the Behnia 2014 couples study, women who used intranasal oxytocin before intercourse reported feeling more relaxed, with subgroups indicating a better ability to share sexual desires and empathize with their partners. It creates a headspace more ready for intimacy.
SAME SESSION
Intranasal oxytocin supported increased intensity of orgasm and contentment after sexual intercourse in published research. For women whose experience of intimacy has felt distant, flat, or obligatory, these shifts — in relaxation, in ease of communication, in post-intimacy contentment — help create a different context for the brain.
WEEKS OF USE
Connect Us is designed as a tool used in the 30 minutes before sex play, rather than active ingredients that need to build in the body over weeks before being effective. Over time, the ritual of use, the reinforced experience of connection, and the gradual reduction of anticipatory anxiety can support a broader shift in the relationship to desire and intimacy. Oxytocin nasal spray works best as part of a larger approach — not as a standalone fix.
Desire is not one thing. When people struggle with sexual desire, the things "hitting the brakes" often have less to do with what's happening in their sex lives and more to do with what's happening everywhere else — stress, depletion, unresolved tension, a body that doesn't feel safe enough to open. Oxytocin supports the neurological side of that equation. It can lower threat response, increase felt safety with a partner, and create more room for receptiveness. What it cannot do is resolve the underlying stressors, relational dynamics, or hormonal shifts that are pressing on the brakes. Connect Us works best alongside a multi-tiered approach.
ABOUT THE TREATMENT
Emily Nagoski's research on female sexuality offers a framework that reframes what most women have been taught about desire. Your brain has both a sexual accelerator — which processes sexually relevant stimuli and turns arousal on — and sexual brakes, which respond to perceived threats, stressors, and inhibitions and turn arousal off. When women experience low desire, it's rarely because there isn't enough stimulation to the accelerator. More often, there's too much pressure on the brakes.
In fact, stress is one of the most common brake activators. For 80–90% of people, the stress response hits the brakes on desire. So does disconnection from a partner, depletion, the sense that your body is a source of obligation rather than pleasure, and the accumulated weight of everything else demanding your attention.
Connect Us Boost Spray is one way to support the neurological conditions that allow the brakes to ease — by working through oxytocin, the neuropeptide at the center of bonding, safety, and felt connection.
Oxytocin is released naturally during physical touch, eye contact, and moments of emotional intimacy. It reduces activation of the amygdala — the brain's threat-detection center — and increases feelings of safety and trust with a partner. It eases pressure on the brakes at a neurological level, creating the conditions that allow for desire to emerge.
Delivered intranasally, oxytocin reaches the limbic system — the brain's emotional and bonding center — quickly. In couples research, women using intranasal oxytocin before intercourse felt more relaxed and reported better ability to share sexual desires and empathize with their partners.
Women who recognize themselves in "I never feel in the mood" or "I want to want sex again." Those whose desire has dimmed under stress, relationship disconnection, exhaustion, depression, or the hormonal shifts of perimenopause. Women who are physically capable of arousal but feel the pathway to desire is missing or harder to access. Women who want to approach intimacy from a place of ease, curiosity, and connection — rather than obligation.
HOW TO USE
STEP 01
Instill 1–2 sprays in each nostril 30–60 minutes before intercourse or intimate connection. This timing allows oxytocin to reach the brain and begin supporting the neurological shift toward felt safety and receptiveness.
STEP 02
Tilt your head slightly forward. Insert the nozzle gently into one nostril while closing the other with a finger. Press the pump and inhale gently through your nose. Repeat in the other nostril. Remain upright for a few minutes after use.
STEP 03
Oxytocin supports the brain's readiness for connection — it works best when paired with intention. A few minutes of physical closeness before the sexual encounter begins — touch, conversation, presence — amplifies the neurological effect. The spray opens a window; you and your partner walk through it together.
STEP 04
Connect Us is an as-needed tool, not a daily medication. Use before intimacy when you want support creating the neurological conditions for desire and connection. Some patients find consistent use over several weeks produces a broader shift in their relationship to intimacy — discuss this with your HerTeleMeds clinician.
Avoid eye contact with the spray. Store at cool room temperature away from direct light. Do not share with others.
In published couples research, women using intranasal oxytocin before intercourse reported feeling more relaxed and showed better ability to share sexual desires and empathize with their partners (Behnia 2014)
Research on female sexuality shows that low desire is more often caused by too much stimulation to the brakes — stress, threat, disconnection — than too little stimulation to the accelerator. Oxytocin works directly on the brake system
Reaches the brain within minutes via the nasal route — the same pathway the body uses when oxytocin is released naturally during touch and intimacy
Clinician-prescribed and compounded to therapeutic concentration — not available OTC
How HerTeleMeds Works
Answer a few questions about your skin and medical history.
A U.S.-licensed provider reviews your information within 24 hours.
If prescribed, your compounded formula is made fresh and arrives discreetly — often within 2–3 days.
One application a day. Results build gradually with consistent use.
Product details
FAQ
Oxytocin is a neuropeptide the body produces naturally — released during physical touch, eye contact, and moments of bonding. It reduces activation of the amygdala (the brain's threat-detection center), increases felt safety and trust, and creates the neurological conditions in which intimacy feels possible. Low desire in women is often driven by too much activation of the sexual brakes — stress, disconnection, threat — rather than too little stimulation to desire itself. Oxytocin works on that threat-brake system directly, from the brain down.
Most OTC libido products work through one of two mechanisms: attempting to increase hormonal drive (DHEA, maca, herbal adaptogens) or increasing genital blood flow and sensitivity (topical arousal products). Connect Us works on a third mechanism — the brain's neurological readiness for connection and intimacy. For women whose low desire is rooted in stress, disconnection, depletion, or a nervous system that doesn't feel safe enough to open, addressing the brain state directly is a different and complementary approach.
Scream Cream is a topical arousal product — applied directly to genital tissue, it increases local blood flow and sensitivity, supporting physical arousal and sensation. Connect Us addresses a different part of the experience: the desire and wanting that precedes physical arousal. One addresses arousal; the other addresses desire. They work on different parts of the sexual response process and can be used complementarily. Discuss with your HerTeleMeds clinician which, or which combination, is right for your experience.
Published research on intranasal oxytocin for sexual function shows real and meaningful effects on the relational and experiential dimensions of intimacy. Women in the Behnia 2014 study reported feeling more relaxed and showed better ability to share sexual desires and empathize with their partners. Intranasal oxytocin supported increased intensity of orgasm and contentment after intercourse. It's worth noting that the Muin long-term RCT found that both oxytocin and placebo improved sexual function scores — suggesting that the ritual, intention, and attention that comes with use also has a meaningful effect. Connect Us is honest about this: it's a tool for supporting the conditions for intimacy, not a pharmaceutical treatment for a diagnosed disorder.
Sometimes desire doesn't come first. You may not start out feeling "in the mood," but once you begin connecting, touching, relaxing, or engaging with your partner, desire can naturally follow. This is called responsive desire, and it's a completely normal way many people experience sexuality, though it's not a concept many people are taught. Most of us are more familiar with spontaneous desire, which most often shows up in men or in the honeymoon phase of a relationship. Neither is better — they are both desire. When women lack desire, the reason is more often too many brakes than too few accelerators. Stress, depletion, relational disconnection, perimenopause, and depression are all brake activators. Nothing about the absence of desire makes you broken. It makes you a person whose nervous system is responding to its environment. Connect Us is one tool in a multi-tiered approach that your HerTeleMeds clinician can help you build.
Yes — and perimenopause and menopause are among the most common contexts in which desire shifts. The hormonal changes of this transition affect both the physical and neurological dimensions of sexual experience. For patients where a combined approach is relevant — oxytocin for the desire and connection dimension alongside estriol or other hormonal support for physical changes — your HerTeleMeds clinician can discuss whether a multi-product protocol makes sense for your situation.
Connect Us is a product designed to be used before intimacy rather than daily. There's no required frequency. Some patients use it occasionally when they want extra support; others incorporate it more regularly as part of their intimacy practice. Your HerTeleMeds clinician will advise on what's appropriate for your specific context.
Connect Us Boost Spray is for women who want to want — and who understand that desire lives in the brain before it lives in the body. A HerTeleMeds clinician will talk with you honestly about what's pressing on your brakes, what tools are available, and whether Connect Us is the right part of your approach. Desire is not one thing. Your solution shouldn't be either.
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